Who Are We Pleasing?

4 Jun

It appears as though we are living during a time where everyone is striving for the same thing: happiness. This is likely a common goal for everyone, despite generational and cultural differences. While we are collectively and individually aiming for happiness, this begs the question of who are we actually pleasing along the way? I started wondering about this after thinking about several conversations I have had with people in my life over the years. Some might say that I am a bit of a people pleaser. While this might seem like a good thing to the people who I am pleasing, this does not always benefit my own individual needs and wants. Quite frankly, this is what inspired this particular post.

People can be considered doormats if they are too willing to please others, but on the contrary can be considered selfish if they do something for themselves. As a society, where do we differentiate between the two? It appears as though the boundaries between being selfish and being selfless are blurred and this can either create a safe haven, or a bit of turmoil in one’s life. The goal is to find a happy balance between the two, pun intended, in order to avoid becoming stressed out.

It is really important to take care of ourselves, first and foremost. This is not meant to sound selfish, it is instead supposed to champion the importance of personal well-being. If  we are not happy and satisfied with ourselves, it is not possible to be able to contribute to the happiness of those around us without a struggle. Particularly for us 20-somethings, I think that many of us are at vulnerable points of our lives and we are constantly striving to please others. We’re either trying to make someone else happy so that we can have a partner to share life and love with, or we are striving to please employers because we are on the never ending job hunt in today’s job market! No one wants to hear the sob story that times are hard, so what are we going to do about it? We can aim to achieve personal happiness in all aspects of our lives. It is important not to neglect our personal, physical, and mental well-being, so that when it comes time to please and impress others, we are fully able to do so without depleting from our own happiness.

Some things that I do to feel better and work on my well-being include reading a good book, listening to music, and going to the gym. While these things are smaller scale contributors to my personal well-being, every little bit helps! We must remember to take time to breathe and not allow the stresses around us to infiltrate our personal happiness.

What makes you happy?



2 Responses to “Who Are We Pleasing?”

  1. vartevarlfc June 4, 2012 at 7:17 pm #

    Something that could make me really happy, is something i currently dont have, and feel i need at the moment. hmmmm….. well written piece!

    • merzybean June 4, 2012 at 7:30 pm #

      It definitely makes us wonder what makes us most happy and what we are doing about it. We also have to remember we can only control so much. Stay positive, my dear!

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